ADVICE ON MAKING UP !

I had an argument with my Filipino wife, and a bigger problem surfaced. Is it real?

KDBush1Advice — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 02:46:49 +0000

I am living in America, my wife is living in the Philippines. We have been married for one year, and have known each other for 5 We’re still working on the papers to get her to America, but maybe that won’t happen now because of recent events. We had an argument on our anniversary party at her parents house in the Philippines. We were both drinking, and we got into a big argument in front of everybody. We finally went to bed, still pissed off but then she gets up and says, I need to go talk to my sisters.

She went upstairs for about 5 minutes, then came back to bed. I want to fix things and can’t sleep. I decide to go upstairs and talk to the sisters to see if I can find out some things. One sister (one I’ve never gotten along with) comes to talk with me alone, and I start asking about the problem me and my wife had and how we can fix it.

She doesn’t answer anything, and actually brings up some more serious issue, that my wife is a lesbian with her best friend. Originally, I blow this off and try to stay on course with the current problem, but she continues on and on. She even gets other sisters of my wife to back up her story. I get really distraught, and lose focus on the original problem.

This new issue consumes my thoughts, I pack my bags and then I end up calling my mother from the Philippines. It’s a rural area, and I have to leave the house and go up a hill to do it. I didn’t know who else to talk to. I don’t normally call my mom about anything, but obviously this new story hurts me. As I left the house to call, my wife is now awake, talking to her parents.

No answer from my mom, but I leave a message. As I come down the hill, Rose is at the bottom waiting for me, and says she is sorry. I also apologize and we hug. I tell her the new information I’ve been told, and she says it’s not true. I’m still consumed with the thoughts, and we decide together that we can’t stay at the house any longer. We pack our things, and leave her parents place at 4am. We end up continuing our vacation, exploring the Philippines together.

We did have one more argument, similar to the first one, shortly before I left Philippines.

When I got home to America, another sister contacted me online and told me of the same lesbian relationship.

That idea has finally been squashed, we think. My wife is now moving out of her home with her family, to get her own place. The "other woman" is in another part of the country, so I don’t have to worry about them living together at this time. We’ve been through a lot with this, and now my wife is questioning our relationship. She says she may never want to come to America with me, but she still loves me. She says she needs time to think. We’re only going to contact each other once a week during this time. My reactions were extreme during all this. Excessive crying and yelling, which isn’t normal for me, but who deals with problems like this every day.

I was taking Chantix to help me quit smoking while there. I’ve found out now that it can cause depression, and even suicidal thoughts, which I was having before. I’ve called the doctor, he’s told me to stop taking it immediately.

The original problem had to do with me wanting more attention from my wife on our anniversary. I had become "needy" and wanted to stop partying and hold her in bed. I wanted her all to myself, but she wanted to stay up and party. American anniversaries are usually private, but apparently there, it’s a big public get together with family.

I haven’t talked to her since Saturday. We used to talk every day. It’s difficult for me, but I do believe after all this mess, that she’s right to want some space. Having 4 sisters lie about you, and have your husband acting out because of Chantix wouldn’t be easy for anyone to deal with. I miss her.

Did the sisters make it up out of envy? I’ve always fought with them, but in the past I’ve defended my wife well. They never came up with a story like this before either. Did my wife tell them to do it because of the original argument? Should I just shut up and wait like I’m supposed to? How long should I wait?

want second chance with ex, i still love her?

KDBush1Advice — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 13:20:04 +0000

We broke up about 2 weeks ago and i asked for her to forgive me today for what i did, which was testing her which she thought i was playing mind games, so she felt unappreciated. Now that she forgave me, my real question is that would she still like to have a second try with me.. i don’t want to give her any pressure.. im just wondering if this subject of second try will be brought up later.. she is a firm believer of second chances. But at the moment im still not sure if she will do that with me.. wish me luck. please give any advices that you find to have any help in my situation. thanks =)

Should i get back with my first love?

KDBush1Advice — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 13:20:03 +0000

im married with children and until recently was very happy, my first love came back on the scene after coming across him on internet chat site and i found out his wife had recently died, and he was now a widowed parent. the crazy thing was that at the time she passed on i kept thinking about him, this also happened when other bad things had happened in his life such as losing his parents etc,
freaky i know. so we got chatting online and he told me he had motorbike and then i told him i was taking lesson so he said he`d give me some lessons to help me. So we arranged to meet. i went to his house and when he answered he looked exactly as he did 10 years previous and he said how i looked amazing!!! he gave me a go on his bike then got chatting about our lives. we talked for hours it was so nice, he showed me the piccies of his wife and child 6 hours passed before i left, i pecked him on cheek and told him not to leave it so long next time. He then sent me a text sayin i should visit again so i did!! and once again hours passed and we talked about us , he asked why we never stayed together and he asked if i`d ever thought of him etc. Truth is ive always cared for him and the more i see him the more i fall for him. i feel so excited when he rings or texts but sad that im doing this to my husband who is the sweetest,kindest person ever. What do i do??if i carry on this way everyone`s gonna get hurt if i end it i`ll never know and still always want him. A wierd thing happened when i asked about his tattoo on his back, i knew the shape,the colour yet i`d never seen it or even been told about it!!! is this fate!!, to make things worse he says he`s always loved me!! we were in and out of each others lives from the age of 11 to 21, 10 years later he`s back! what shall i do? end my marriage or end this fantasy??

Get Him Back Forever: Is A Second Chance Really Possible?

KDBush1Advice — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 02:19:06 +0000

How It Works

Get Him Back Forever was designed by Matt Huston, a psychologist, who, being a man himself, knows what his race is really looking for in a lifetime commitment. He is a professional relationship coach who has spend hundreds of hours reuniting frustrated individuals with their loved ones, and making sure that they stay happy for the rest of their lives:

• Matt knows that men have certain “hot buttons” – particular moves and situations that trigger a man’s psyche to desire the opposite sex, and persuade his subconscious to want to settle down and promise commitment to one girl. Get Him Back Forever has compiled a thorough list of how to turn on these “hot buttons” and how to use them to your advantage.

• Matt Huston offers not just theories, but practical advice and real instructions on all sorts of relationship situations, from being literal next-door neighbors to having a long distance love affair. His method works on the basis of its speedy effectiveness – he wants you to get your man emotionally attached to you before someone else does.

• Once a guy discovers an emotional bond with someone, the other women are over – and you would not want to be the other women. Get Him Back Forever will make sure that will happen, even if you have broken up.

Some Road Bumps

The program will not come with some minor setbacks – with one false step everything can go lost and the whole goal might be lost. It would be very important to follow Get Him Back Forever’s tips and instructions carefully and with full understanding. Matt Hudson admits that even if he has a solid set of testimonials to prove that his method has worked; it really just might not be for everyone. We appreciate the money back guarantee he has offered just in case.

If you’re really convinced that the man you’ve just lost is really the man whom you’d still want to spend the rest of your life with, then there’s nothing to lose with trying out this helpful guide – it definitely beats irrational hoping or relying on blind chances.

More than having your dream house, dream car, or landing the perfect job, Matt Huston knows that having your dream partner in your arms will be the best thing that will happen in your life. You probably know this fact already, and you probably also are experiencing extreme depression right now because you’ve let that special person go, somehow. The Get Him Back Forever method says that there is still hope – that there is a proven, scientific, and completely effective way to make your man feel sorry about letting you go, and to keep him in your arms – forever. How It Works Get Him Back Forever was designed by Matt Huston, a psychologist, who, being a man himself, knows what his race is really looking for in a lifetime commitment. He is a professional relationship coach who has spend hundreds of hours reuniting frustrated individuals with their loved ones, and making sure that they stay happy for the rest of their lives: • Matt knows that men have certain “hot buttons” – particular moves and situations that trigger a man’s psyche to desire the opposite sex, and persuade his subconscious to want to settle down and promise commitment to one girl. Get Him Back Forever has compiled a thorough list of how to turn on these “hot buttons” and how to use them to your advantage. • Matt Huston offers not just theories, but practical advice and real instructions on all sorts of relationship situations, from being literal next-door neighbors to having a long distance love affair. His method works on the basis of its speedy effectiveness – he wants you to get your man emotionally attached to you before someone else does. • Once a guy discovers an emotional bond with someone, the other women are over – and you would not want to be the other women. Get Him Back Forever will make sure that will happen, even if you have broken up. Some Road Bumps The program will not come with some minor setbacks – with one false step everything can go lost and the whole goal might be lost. It would be very important to follow Get Him Back Forever’s tips and instructions carefully and with full understanding. Matt Hudson admits that even if he has a solid set of testimonials to prove that his method has worked; it really just might not be for everyone. We appreciate the money back guarantee he has offered just in case. If you’re really convinced that the man you’ve just lost is really the man whom you’d still want to spend the rest of your life with, then there’s nothing to lose with trying out this helpful guide – it definitely beats irrational hoping or relying on blind chances.

The Ex Back System – Reclaim Your Shot At True Love

KDBush1Advice — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 02:49:57 +0000

The Benefits and Features

Ex Back System was created by Brian Bold, a guy who successfully managed to win his fiancée back in less than 200 days. It is not just an instruction manual – it comes in a PDF, a video, and an audio book format, so you can master Brian’s instructions whether you are at home or on the go. According to Brian, there are 5 important phases that you have to go through in order to back with your ex: Recession, Reconstruction, Reconnection, Reconciliation, and then Resolution. He will walk you through each of these phases with complete instructions on how to create situations wherein you can show your ex that you seriously want them back and that you will not commit your old mistakes ever again. The system will also tell you what NOT to do, and what to do even after you have reunited with the love of your life. It looks to be the most comprehensive manual of its kind in the market.

The Possible Cons

One possible glitch you might go through is the awkward situation if your ex (and soon to be life partner) discovers that you have used the Ex Back System to win him or her back. On the other hand, you probably won’t have a hard time making them feel flattered that you were willing to do everything and anything to get them back in your life.

Of course, there’s the off chance that the system really might not work on you and your beloved. Brian cannot offer a 100% success rate, but he does provide a 60-day full money back guarantee, even if you come to your own realization that you have been obsessing about a person who really is not right for you and will never get back with you.

Final Verdict

The Ex Back System sounds very promising, and definitely worth its value (less than a hundred dollars). At the end of the day, winning the love game is priceless.

Skeptics might say that if they wanted love advice, they would have gone straight to their friends or their mentors. But then again, even your most well-meaning friends cannot help you get your ex back, because they have never been through it. Not everyone has a friend who has lost his or her ex and successfully won him or her back. A lot of people are trying to sell you stuff to help improve your health or your home, but have you encountered a product that promises to help improve – and radically change – your love life? It sounds incredulous at first sight, but the fact stands that such a service wouldn’t have been conceptualized if there weren’t people who needed it. So here’s a review of the Ex Back System for you – a method that claims to be powerful enough to help you not just regain the love of your life, but happiness and stability as well. The Benefits and Features Ex Back System was created by Brian Bold, a guy who successfully managed to win his fiancée back in less than 200 days. It is not just an instruction manual – it comes in a PDF, a video, and an audio book format, so you can master Brian’s instructions whether you are at home or on the go. According to Brian, there are 5 important phases that you have to go through in order to back with your ex: Recession, Reconstruction, Reconnection, Reconciliation, and then Resolution. He will walk you through each of these phases with complete instructions on how to create situations wherein you can show your ex that you seriously want them back and that you will not commit your old mistakes ever again. The system will also tell you what NOT to do, and what to do even after you have reunited with the love of your life. It looks to be the most comprehensive manual of its kind in the market. The Possible Cons One possible glitch you might go through is the awkward situation if your ex (and soon to be life partner) discovers that you have used the Ex Back System to win him or her back. On the other hand, you probably won’t have a hard time making them feel flattered that you were willing to do everything and anything to get them back in your life. Of course, there’s the off chance that the system really might not work on you and your beloved. Brian cannot offer a 100% success rate, but he does provide a 60-day full money back guarantee, even if you come to your own realization that you have been obsessing about a person who really is not right for you and will never get back with you. Final Verdict The Ex Back System sounds very promising, and definitely worth its value (less than a hundred dollars). At the end of the day, winning the love game is priceless.

does my best friend like me? urgent 10 points to best answer?

KDBush1Advice — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 14:00:19 +0000

My best guy friend left the school i went to 3 years ago and now i’m in high school he goes to the same high school. He was always loud and hyper around me but now hes really shy and he always looks down when i look at him and smiles and i always catch him staring at me. I really like him but does he like me back?

he asked this guy (the one i used to like but he hurt me) how I’ve been doing and the guy replied "oh, that fatty…" and he didnt answer the question. my best friend got really pissed and almost punched him and said "She’s not fat! In fact shes nowhere near fat!"

after school when i talked to him on MSN this is what happened:

Scared of the dark (My best guy friend): hi maki-chan!! ^^
UsagiChyuu (me): hey hiro-kun!! ^_^
Scared of the dark: I miss you already >.< i want the weekend to be over so i can see you
UsagiChyuu: Same here >.<
Scared Of The Dark: so, you wear glasses?
UsagiChyuu: yeah, i guess its good since i look ugly with out glasses lol
Scared Of The Dark:
I wanna tell you some thing.
So listen,
1) Youre not fat youre skinny
2) Youre not ugly youre really pretty with or without glasses
3) I like you just the way you are
UsagiChyuu:
awwh thnx )
Scared Of The Dark:
I wear glasses too sometimes xD
UsagiChyuu:
I bet you look relly kawaii (cute in jap) in them
Scared Of The Dark:
really?
UsagiChyuu:
But you look so so so kawaii anyway xD
Scared of the dark: Thanks ^^
UsagiChyuu: Np
UsagiChyuu (me) said:
i had a relly random dream…you were edward cullen and i was bella swan o.O and you were a vampire lol
i woke up freaking in the night
Scared Of The Dark >.< said:
Lol
Me: Edward Cullen
You: Bella Swan

it kinda goes
will you go out with me?
jk
UsagiChyuu said:
o.O f*ck, you scared me…
Scared Of The Dark said:
err my cousin said that
srry
sorry
im sorry
sorry
UsagiChyuu said:
awwh its otay ^^
Scared Of The Dark said:
umm BRB
UsagiChyuu said:
okay
Scared Of The Dark:
im bac
UsagiChyu said:
great
Scared Of The Dark:
Weird dreams just RANDOMLY come :S
UsagiChyuu: said:
uhuh…
Scared Of The Dark:
about the situation we were talking about before. DONT EVER CUT YOURSELF AGAIN. you hear me? just promise that you will never harm yourself i dont want you to get hurt. and i will always be there for you no matter what okay? and if you fall in love make sure its with the right guy…
UsagiChyuu: Dw i wont cut anymore wow, youre the first person im actually listening to who told me not to cut myself
thats not all of the convo

btw he never called me really pretty before, thats a first and he always blushes when hes around me.

does he like me?

How do I choose between my mother and my ex-husband? I am bipolar?

KDBush1Advice — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 09:06:40 +0000

I am bipolar and just got out of a relationship. Now I am back talking to my ex husband, who I dearly love. Mom has been helping me b/c I have been afraid of being alone and was in the mental hospital for some time. She wants me to get back on track because I can barely function. She helps me with paying bills on time and around the house even. I feel so worthless. Now my ex came to visit me tonight and she says she is going to put me out of her life again…because he smokes pot a little and did some other things she did not like. I don’t know what to do. I need my mother so much………it is not fair. I want the man I love back in my life again.

Should I give him a second chance?

KDBush1Advice — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 06:46:25 +0000

About 2 months ago, my ex broke up with me for another girl. Now he sais he wants to go back out with me because he misses me and sais he made a mistake for leaving me for this other girl. He’s still dating that other girl but he said he would break up with her for me. I really want to go back out with him but I’m not sure if I should because of what he did and my friends and family don’t like him. That’s another issue. I miss him so much. I couldn’t give him an answer but he told me I can tell him tomorrow.

My heart isn’t agreeing with my head, and I’ve had two people give me totally different advice.
What should I do?

Relationship between an atheist woman and a Christian man: advice please!?

KDBush1Advice — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 21:24:46 +0000

Short version of a long story >>> Two friends were sleeping together, she got pregnant, she wanted an abortion then changed her mind and now they’re having a baby and trying to make their relationship work.

But they’re clashing over religious beliefs… he’s a Christian and regretting sex outside marriage, whereas she’s very sexually open and thinks it’s fine. He’s resentful that she nearly aborted his baby, she accepts that it would’ve been the wrong choice but is still pro-choice. She being practical and getting on with things whilst he’s worrying about sinning against God… he also keeps hinting about marriage but she doesn’t want to get married.

Please no "just split up" answers… we really want to make it work. I know it sounds like i’ve told you all the bad things but we also really love each other and he’s a great and very responsible person.

Does anyone have any advice on making this work? thanks so much. xxx
I’m just not a marriage person, I think it’s unneccesary and outdated. i want to see if it’ll work out before i make that committment. He’s not pressuring me into marriage, it’s just something i know he’d like.
Friendly: they’ve been friends for a few years, met at school.
correction *we’ve
Failure by design: LOL!
I should probably add that he isn’t a fundie christian… he’s an open minded and easy going guy. i think he’s just confused.
caligirl: but all that’s in the past. i know we’ve done things we’re not proud of. wouldn’t god want us to work things out now for the sake of our child?

First Love Dumped Me:-(. How can I come back and look happy and beautiful.?

KDBush1Advice — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 13:56:00 +0000

My first real love broke up with me tuesday. It was so bad that i had to skip school the next day. We had dated 8 and 1/2 months. It was the most painful thing I have gone through. It hurt even more because it was sudden and he gave me no reasons. I’m better now. But how do I bounce back to my beautiful happy self. I want to change my look so I will get noticed by other guys. I don’t want to make him jealous. That’s just plain cruel; I don’t follow in rude behavior. But over the summer I’m changing my look. I’m 16 going on 17. I’m 5’6 and skinny with some curve. I have olive skin, dark brown eyes, and long brown hair. Unfortunately a little skin issues which I’m trying to help but not much you can do but take care of it. I want to be a bombshell for next year. Can you help me. Maybe give me ideas and pointers on anything pertaining to fashion. Maybe some pics of hair and makeup would be nice. I’m not a huge fan of makeup though I like to look beautiful naturally. So the more natural the better. Maybe some cool perfumes that are delicate and beautiful like flowers.

thanks so much for helping me out of my slump. And also thanks for reading this huge passage. I appreciate it.
hahaha no. I didn’t turn ugly. I just want to look 100% again. I need updating. Besides I like feeling beautiful.
oh no no i don’t want to be a hoochie mama either. Just beautiful. I’m not that sorta girl. I’m within the top 3 students in my class. I know better.